He needs a sharp reminder that you exist and care about him as well. I won't pressure him into anything if you insist...but I will make pointed reminders.

And everybody's allowed to be sad, trust me, but you aren't allowed to beat up yourself too much. There are enough people out there who'll do it for you, you don't need to hurt yourself as well.

And good. I shall call you once my internet connection decided to cooperate...